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Whirlybird Lunacy

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There is a label, in the education field, for parents who “hover” over their children in an overprotective, and micro-managing way: helicopter parenting.

As teachers, we get it.  You don’t want your child to ever “fail.” You want to prove to your child, the world, your self, that you are an involved parent. But you are not doing your child any favors.

When you hover, you:

  • subconsciously tell your kid that you don’t trust him to do it himself;
  • create anxiety for your child;
  • cheat your child out of the opportunity to work independently;
  • cheat your child out of learning from failing; and
  • cheat your child out of accomplishing something on his own.

 Sometimes, effective parenting means surrendering.

 

 

 

1 thought on “Whirlybird Lunacy”

  1. I was raised on rules that changed periodically. I was expected to obey those rules without anyone checking. If I broke a rule, I was punished accordingly [time-out, extra chores, etc]. As I stated, the rules would change as I got older. I was given more freedom as to when I’d do my homework, what my outside boundaries were, etc. I was always allowed to question the rules or to state why I wanted them changed. Sometimes, not always, they would see my point of view and change the rule or abolish it.

    I was comfortable with myself while I was growing up.

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