I am reading “Freedom From the Known” by J. Krishnamurti:

“To identify ourselves with something is fairly easy. Most of us identify ourselves with something – with our family, our husband or wife, our nation – and that leads to great misery and great wars.”

He goes on to explain the chasm or “space” between our knowing selves and that which we are observing. This “space” is what keeps us from really seeing each other. Our perception of each other is really a collection of memories.

I’m not sure I’m explaining it well, but I’m finding much truth to this book.