…because what you focus on GROWS!
It’s easy to complain and not realize it. Some believe that venting is healthy. It can even become a bonding experience: sharing complaints with your co-workers can provide a false sense of camaraderie. The problem is, it can become a habit and then become a part of your personality.
You don’t want to be that person!
Be firm and let people know your boundaries, but…
Focus, instead, on what you DO want. And get going!