Out on a Lim*


The sequel to the “Crazy Rich Asians” film has been delayed because of a pay dispute. Adele Lim, a female Asian writer, was offered 1/8 the pay as her male (white) co-writer. This is an enormous disparity and even more egregious when you consider what she brings to the table (which he cannot): an Asian perspective to an Asian film.

Here are some of her words on the matter:

“Being evaluated that way can’t help but make you feel that is how they view my contributions,” Lim said. She also feels women and people of color are used as “soy sauce.” In other words, they’re only there to add a cultural flavor to the project.


No Such Thing as a Free Lunch


I pack my daughters’ lunches on school days. Yes, they’re teenagers and could do it themselves and no, I’m not spoiling them. I do it because it really is a pleasure for me.

Monday, I packed chicken quesadillas. I used Costco shredded cheese. Literally, it says “Mexican Blend Cheese“:

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Ava comes home and says, “The Mexican boys at my table saw my lunch and asked me why you use yellow cheese. I told them that I have a Korean mom.”




Tuesday, I packed garlicky pasta. Because I’m so nice and thoughtful, I taped a piece of gum on the thermos:

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No comment from the peanut gallery teens.


Wednesday, I packed Korean sticky rice and threw in some dried seaweed. Ava says she wants to be more vegetarian, so I thought this was perfect.


She came home and said, “I got so much teasing over my Asian lunch.”


Thursday, I packed more Korean sticky rice and baked tilapia. But when I looked for small tupperware, I had none. I’ve decided to stop using plastic bags (you know, the ocean and all) and so I had to use the zipper pouches I wrote about before:

Wegreeco Reusable Sandwich & Snack Bags - Set of 3 - (Odyssey)

Yes, I put fish in a bag. 

That afternoon, Ava comes home and sighs.

“Could you please pack lunches that won’t get me beat up*?”



*Obviously, she’s not really getting beat nor bullied.


Sunday Funnies #1

When I was a kid, I used to love reading the Sunday comics. They were in color and I studied each one. This was back in the day when we had news in paper form…right after fire was invented.

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Josie’s creation


I’ve decided to make my own “Sunday Funnies”. Here is Sunday Funny #1:


Setting: Yesterday morning at the breakfast table

Characters: Josie (14) and Ava (13) and me

Ava: Mom, what is your favorite color?

Josie (answers for me): Green.

(I nod in agreement.)

Ava: What’s your favorite song?

Josie: “Sweet Caroline.”

Me: Duh.

Ava: What is your favorite ethnic cuisine?

Me: That’s hard. I love so many foods…Italian…

Josie: Mmmmm!

Me: Greek…Vietnamese, Korean, Thai….I guess I could say that I love them all. They are all delicious!

Ava: What is your favorite kind of dog? You know, which breed?

Me: (Thinking)…Labrador, pit bull…

Josie: All of them! They are ALL delicious!

Both girls giggle and high five.

Ava: We are so Asian.