Jack or Master?

I am a proponent of children focusing on one activity as opposed to jumping from one kind of lesson to another (last month, karate, this month, golf). I have two kids who tell me they are grateful for their expertise on violin and would not have it any other way.

But I wanted to ask other children their thoughts. This week, I quizzed 90 students. The most passionate answers came from children who have been taking lessons in something since they were three, or four, or five. They are proud to say that at age eleven, they have six, seven or even eight years of experience in dance or gymnastics or violin.  They hold their skills dear to their hearts. One sentiment kept coming up: “My (activity) is part of who I am.”

Students who have started and quit various activities gave lukewarm responses, “Yeah, it might be good. But I like that I know how several things work. I don’t know. I suppose it might feel good to be really good at something.”

I am not sure this is a one-size-fits-all practice. Perhaps some children have a bigger need for exploration and experimentation. However, I do know that perseverance and mastery require a lot of hours. Through competitions, auditions and practice, young people learn how to handle disappointment and setbacks. They open themselves to “failure” and they become resilient. They gain confidence.

 

 

 

 

 

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Write – Scrivi -쓰다 – 写 – escribir – γράφω

Writing it down…

  • makes an idea closer to reality.

  • creates a promise.

  • communicates ideas and feelings to others.

  • clarifies information.

  • publishes a rule or law.

  • forms a recipe or a menu.

  • extends permission.

  • announces a birth.

  • eulogizes a life.

  • expresses love.

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I Get to Teach Amazing Children

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One of the writing prompts to my students last week: Think of something you must do. Maybe you have to do a chore. Now, put it in a sentence. For example, “I have to take out the garbage.” Make it a true sentence. Now, replace the words “have to” with “get to.” Do you see or feel a difference?

One of my fifth graders wrote this:

“I have to do the dishes. I GET to do the dishes. I have food I get to clean off the dishes. I ate food with my family last night. My dad, my stepmom, my brother and I talked and laughed and ate food and then I got to clean the food off the plates. I am really lucky because I have food to eat. I have a family to love. And I get to do the dishes.”

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DC Metro – Red Line

A young couple —

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Tilt their heads toward each other

 

Eyes, love-gelled

Lips, upturned

Ever-so-slightly

Hearts and bank accounts light

 

Life is love-centered

Their parents are young

Days upon days unmarred by cancer

And other aberrations

 

Holding warm hands

In the brisk April air

Tight buds are blossoming

Spirits buoyed by unfettered youth

Rituals

 

This morning, my husband and I woke up, started making coffee and wondered out loud, “Should we make coffee and THEN walk, or walk and come back to coffee?”  Since the Arizona weather has cooled, we’ve started a new weekend ritual: while our daughters sleep in, we go for a walk with Opal, our pitbull rescue. We have been going to a new park next to the elementary school in our community. The design includes a winding walkway, a water pump, simple signs describing wild life and cacti and of course, quail, jackrabbits, ground squirrels, roadrunners, gila woodpeckers, mourning doves, cactus wren and various cacti.

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We’re out for an hour or so. Yesterday, we went to the new park. This morning, we walked in Usery Park. We walk down several blocks from our home and cross a wash and voila! Usery. It’s protected and the plants there survive without any irrigation, it’s xeriscape at it’s best. Opal darts in and out and inevitably catches cholla on her paws. But she’s in heaven and so are we.

Walking in nature, one feels a sense of peace unmatched in one’s daily life. The open, blue sky above….the vast landscape of untouched nature ahead….the utter joy of one’s dog leaping and chasing jackrabbits and then limping back to us, asking us to remove thorns from her paw. It’s times like these, where you feel you’re really looking at the Big Picture and you realize what is truly important: love and presence.

 

Calla Devlin,

Readers, I’m thrilled to share my interview with Calla Devlin. We were in a San Francisco writing group together over 12 years ago. She’s worked hard at her craft, balancing marriage, children, and full-time jobs. She is a testament to staying focused and true to one’s art and she shares her lessons here.

Kismet:  First of all, I want to say, I am really looking forward to reading your novel. The book description (due out in Fall day+of+the+dead+lady2016) reads: Tell Me Something Real tells the story of three beautiful blond sisters who travel with their mother into Mexico so she can receive alternative cancer treatments for her leukemia, all the while remaining completely unaware that an illness far more insidious than cancer poisons their home, and that their world will shatter under the weight of an incomprehensible betrayal. I remember when we were in the Kicking Muses writing group together in San Francisco (over 12 years ago!) and here you are, on the brink of getting a novel published!

calladevlinCalla Devlin:  That writing group was so valuable to me. I did share several chapters of this novel with the group, and I published a few chapters as stand-alone stories in anthologies and literary journals. Writing this book was a long process. It started out as a collection of linked stories and then a book that explored the characters as adults. Ultimately, I needed to narrow the focus of the novel to a single protagonist and the events that unfolded one summer.

Kismet: Did you ever doubt yourself or get tired of the storyline? I know many writers, including myself, doubt our stories time to time. How do you get over that?

Calla Devlin: I wrote several complete drafts of this novel. Originally, it started out as a collection of linked stories with chapters told from various points-of-view–six in all. This novel changed so much with every draft and i discovered myself and my voice in the process. But it was a very labor intensive process, and when you’re balancing being a mom and working full time and writing drafts of a novel, doubting yourself is inevitable. While it was a struggle at times, I am very fortunate to have a champion of a literary agent, who encouraged me every step of the way. Also, being in writing groups also kept me motivated and committed.

Writing is a solitary and fearless act. We sit alone before the computer and dare ourselves to be original and honest with our stories. Hesitation and doubt are a part of the process, but I truly believe that each and every one of us has a story to tell, whether written or spoken. And when we are able to share our stories, it is such a gift.

Kismet: You have two beautiful daughters of your own. Are you often inspired by mother/daughter relationships?

Calla Devlin: The mother-daughter relationship is so defining and complex, and I’m inspired by the interconnectedness of that relationship. I began Tell Me Something Real before I had children, and it was just a short story. While writing it, I had had my first daughter, then I lost my mother-in-law to cancer. She was very important to me and very much a mother figure. Then I had my second daughter. Becoming a mother and grief shaped the way I approached the book, and my sympathies for the various characters evolved over time. Because I write YA, I approach the material from the daughter’s point-of-view, and the myriad ways in which daughters need their mother’s support and approval—and what happens when that is somehow compromised. Also, the novel is as much about the sister relationship as the mother-daughter relationship.

Kismet: What do you hope your readers will feel or how will they be changed after reading your work?

Calla Devlin: Tell Me Something Real  is very much about resilience and a character who learns to trust herself and claim her voice. I, of course, want readers to feel connected to my characters, but I also hope readers are inspired to share their own stories.

Kismet:  Tell us what your writing process is. Do you have a strict schedule and process (where, when, how do you write)?

Calla Devlin: I’ve always balanced writing with work, and also with my family. I try to carve out writing time when I can. I don’t write every day, but I’m engaged with my writing every day. I read a great deal, which I think is an essential part of my process. There are weeks when I’ll write in every spare minute, and others when I write for just a couple of days. I cherish opportunities to take writing retreats.

Kismet: You’ve been published many times in many distinguished journals. Do you have advice for writers who write for the love of it, but also hope to get published?

Calla Devlin: If you love writing, write! I feel such joy when I am immersed in a novel and connected to my characters. I encourage everyone who loves writing to do just that—write for the joy of it. There are so many excellent literary journals in print and online. I read as many as I can and I think it’s important to submit to journals that share a similar editorial vision and voice. It is about finding a home for your work, which means that the journal is kindred. If you connect with a journal, it’s great to tell the editor why you’re submitting there and how you see your work being consistent with their publication. It requires reading and research, but the process is a wonderful one.

Calla Devlin’s website: http://www.calladevlin.com/

Calla’s debut novel is coming in the Fall of 2016 from Atheneum Books, a division of Simon & Schuster.

Save Time!

Hello Readers,

I’m always trying to save time in order to maximize efficiency.  My mission with this blog is to share my findings with you, whether it’s valuable advice from new and veteran writers, or to share with you great tips on living better.

One big time waster has been reading news. First of all, there’s just so much of it and most of it is garbage. Secondly, it’s usually a downer. But I’ve come across something that has enabled me to stay “in touch” with the world’s events in just a few paragraphs, with a twist of humor. The Daily Skimm does the heavy lifting for me, sifting through all the news and summarizing it for me. Check it out!

The Daily Skimm

 

Another writer interview is on its way soon!

 

Leonard Chang!

justifiedI had the very good fortune of interviewing Leonard Chang.

Award-winning author of several novels, FX’s “Justified” TV Show writer and his motumblr_inline_n9ubdnRcV91qbjnfast recent autobiography, Triplines, he shared his writing process and advice for other writers.  He is currently at work on another novel, The Lockpicker, due out in 2016.

What inspires you and what is your writing process when writing novels?

Perhaps this might be a circular answer, but writing actually inspires me. When I write a scene or a story or a character that suddenly *clicks*, whether it gets at something I’ve been thinking about for a long time, or a character does something surprising and delightful to me, or any kind of confluence of the creative forces as I’m trying to make a story coalesce — when it works, I feel an incredible sense of… I don’t know, joy, or maybe even a hint of transcendence. It’s what Kafka has said, and which I’m sure I’ve talked about before: for the him writing was the axe breaking the frozen sea within us. Of course not all writing does that — and getting to that place is arduous, painstaking work, but when it happens I feel like all the pain was worthwhile, and I want to keep doing it…

My writing process for my novels is very, very simple. I get up early and I write a few pages a day, and then do other things until the next morning. The pages accumulate over time, and then I rewrite these pages over and over, sometimes starting over from scratch. I keep doing this until the novel is finished — it can take years. I’m not being facetious — it really is this grueling. It’s all about stamina.

How did you get into writing for a TV series? Was it something you’ve dreamed of doing? What would you advise wanna be TV series writers to do?

I’ve never dreamed of writing for a TV series, but certainly have dreamed of being able to write all the time, which is essentially what I’ve been doing since I became a professional writer. For me, writing TV is just another kind of writing. It all comes from the same place. And I got into TV writing the same way I got into novel writing. For novels, when I read everything I could and found I wanted more, I began writing books for myself. For TV I watched shows like The Sopranos and The Wire, and hungered for more, so began trying to create my own shows. However in TV there’s a lot more to the business that just writing, and I needed to understand all facets of TV production, which is why I had to begin staffing on other shows to learn. I’ve been lucky to work on excellent shows with superb people. As for breaking into TV there’s no one way — every writer you meet in TV has a different story about how they broke in. Often it’s through a mentor, through a lower level writing assistant job, through the TV writing programs, or through a different medium (film, novels, plays, etc). My only general piece of advice is at the very base level of all of these is being a great writer, so that’s the factor you can control. You need to write so well that everyone who reads your work will feel like they’re missing out if they don’t ally themselves with you.

Describe a typical day at work for “Justified.”

“Justified” has ended (we aired our season finale a couple months back) but for me a typical day looked like this: I would get into the office at around 5:30 AM. I would spend a couple hours writing various things, sometimes Justified scripts, sometimes other things. I’d then watch the previous day’s “dailies” — the footage shot yesterday. I’d read through yesterday’s writers’ room notes, think about the issues we’d be talking about that day. The writers’ room would start around 10:00AM, and I along with eight or nine other writers would continue “breaking” a new episode — basically discussing at length the current story and state of the characters, laying things out on a whiteboard — and then we’d finish around 6:00PM. I’d then do a little more work, and then go to the gym. I’d get home by 8:00-ish and spend time with my partner (she is also a writer but works at home) and we might watch TV and hang out, and then I’d pretty much crash by 10:00PM. All this changes if we’re shooting an episode I wrote, since our writers were always on set for our scripts — those were long days and nights.

Thank you for your time and attention, Leonard!

For more Q&A, check out his blog: http://leonardchang.tumblr.com/

Readers, click on the book covers to purchase his books. They Ah-mazing!

Here is his author’s page on Amazon.com.

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Telling The Story With Care

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This poster came in a box of cereal.

I taped it to the wall near my desk. I’m not even a hard core Star Wars fan, but I taped it to remind me of something: even the best make mistakes. Yes, it made $924,317,558 at the box office. It was a hit, if you consider only the money it brought in. But in terms of quality – critical success – it bombed. It was the fourth film in the Star Wars series, so one can’t make the rookie argument.

Some critiques from reputable sources:

“Part two now focuses on the second biggest problem with the Phantom Menace, the story. The mystery plot lacking direction and emotional involvement was really the other big problem. No tension, no drama, no stakes. Characters aimlessly follow along the events.” – SlashFilm.com 

As a writer, you have to decide whether you’re writing for the craft or for views/sales/tawdry attention.