Driving from Georgia to Arizona, we made a stop in Memphis, TN. We visited the site of Martin Luther King Jr.’s assassination. The power and legacy of this one peace-minded person were palpable.
“Whenever you are stressed, it is because whatever is happening at that moment is what you don’t want to be happening.”
A critical step in minimizing your own stress is to accept your present moment.
“Until you love death, you cannot love life. What you fear about death is what you fear about life.” ~ Byron Katie.
When I was a kid, we had all kinds of sayings:
Takes one to know one.
Whoever smelt it, dealt it.
Take a chill pill!
But one that stands out is: You’re just projecting! I don’t think we really understood what we were saying, but it usually left the Complainer speechless.
And with good reason.
When we complain about others, we are projecting. Byron Katie’s work includes as “turnaround.” When you find yourself grumbling about someone, she has you turn it around:
“Sheila should not operate out of fear.”
Turn it around.
“I should not operate out of fear.”
With inquiry, we find that we are projecting our own fears and inadequacies.