Would you still love me if I was sick and dying?
Would you hold my hand all day in the hospital room while the world outside went on and on…buzzing with activity?
Would you comb my dirty hair and bring me clean underwear and ask the doctor when I am allowed to shower?
Would you give me words of love and comfort as my spirits start to wither?
Would you stay with me?
This is the very best article I have ever read on marriage. It’s by Byron Katie.
If you are ready, reading this will feel like sitting in the light of truth.
It will feel like bathing in authenticity.
If you’re ready, reading this article can change all of your relationships – for the better.
My favorite line:
There’s no way to truly join your partner except by getting free of your belief that you need something from him that he’s not giving.
I was raised on conditions. I had to prove my worth in order to be loved. And I grew up and did the same to those I loved. I think this is the root of many dysfunctional relationships.
Went for a run again last night with William. It was much colder than it has been, but we didn’t back down. We also ran during sunset and not in the dark. It was beautiful and I was (am!) grateful for this connection with my husband and nature.
As we approach the new year, I’m reflecting on this past year. It was pretty awesome. One thing I’d like to have more of is outdoor time as a family: more hiking and less technology. (Technology is great, don’t get me wrong, but using it most of one’s waking hours is not necessary).
I like to create my own content, but tonight, I MUST share something with you. If you’re interested in emotional intelligence, you need to see this:
I love this website. There is so much to learn. Who is “The School of Life”? They’re based in London.There is a psychotherapist on staff and many writers and researchers. They seem to know their stuff. I like their style.
Here is their Vision Statement:
We want people to have better relationships
To be better parents
To be more understanding children
To be less anxious
To be less scared
To be more self-aware
To be more appreciative
To be more forgiving
To be wiser consumers
To be more mature employees, entrepreneurs and leaders
To create businesses that more accurately satisfy the true emotional needs of consumers
To help work to be more meaningful
To be better at resisting certain noxious messages in society around happiness, success and status.
To have a good understanding of one’s place in history and the distinctive challenges of living in modern consumer capitalism, with its Romantic individualistic hedonistic philosophy.
To be more modest about what happiness is possible – and at the same time more hopeful and appreciative day to day.
To be at ease with culture, mining it for what is useful, using it to enhance one’s own life, not to pass an exam: to be consoled and enlightened by culture.
So check them out. They cover a wide spectrum of topics.
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