“I think your whole life shows in your face and you should be proud of that.”
I didn’t give much thought until I became afflicted, too.
My mother, possibly the sweetest person on earth, lamented, “I feel like people don’t like old people.”
You need to watch this video if you think you’ll live past forty.
The speaker is Scilla Elworthy, a peace builder and founder of The Oxford Research Group. She’s been nominated for the Nobel Peace Prize three times. She makes excellent points about maturation. There’s such a stigma with the word “old” and “aging.” We are all getting older, day by day. If we’re open to learning and truly get wiser, then we are “distinguished” and respectable, not old.
I’m doing down dog
skin is sagging ’round the knees
woe meets acceptance
Hey there, preening girl!
“beauty” is destined to flee
“Real You” will remain
About this poem: as I age and raise teenage daughters, I realize the stage where I was distracted by the issue of physical appearance played a “hyped up” role in identity. All that time and energy directed toward something I was really not in control of could have been invested in cello playing, writing or reading a good book.
I’m also keenly aware that I still care more than I would like to – I exercise now with the goal of building and keeping muscle/strength but aesthetics still has some play in my intentions.
Our culture idolizes the young, which is silly because being young is fleeting and not based on wisdom or experience. It’s just dumb luck.
The History of Snake Oil
When Chinese railroad workers came to California, they brought with them a magical elixir made from water snake fat. The fat from these snakes was high in Omega-3 fatty acids which we know today really does work for reducing inflammation, blood pressure and more. Non-Chinese went crazy for the stuff.
Non-Chinese started to make their own snake oil, but either watered it down, or used fat from other animals that were not nearly as high in Omega-3. Peddlers sold this inferior “snake oil” and then it got a bad reputation. (Very Well Health)
And here is one example of modern day “snake oil”:
Wait, you can INFUSE YOUR SKIN with youth? Why, then, is it on clearance?
I am grateful for the early morning intention
To feed my daughters earth’s fruits
At lunch when I am absent
my love is omnipresent
I am grateful for the pesky wind
That musses “perfect” hair
And shouts sweet nothings in my ears
All are signs that I’m alive
I am grateful for the cuts on my fingers
They scream silently as I work
scabs, wrinkles, dry cuticles –
My hands are marked with ravages of time and labor
Don’t dismiss old folk
For with luck, you too will age
greet with reverence