Bereavement

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I thought I had Byron Katie’s philosophy on death mastered. Consider death differently. Let go of stressful thoughts. It’s egoic to want someone to still be alive if they died. No one dies “too soon.” Resisting reality only causes pain. Yes, I get that.

But then a very good friend passed away today and I can’t help but cry and feel the loss of his physical presence. Someone who gave so much of himself is now gone. How to reconcile this?

Tomorrow is a new day. His children and his wife will feel his absence. We all will. As Katie says, life is a recycling circuit. Nothing happens too soon. Everything happens “just right” and I must trust this is true, even though it doesn’t feel that way right now.

Making Amends – Page 21*

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The next day, Kevin approached Carlos and Minji.

“I’m sorry for my behavior. I want to hang out with you guys again. I promise I will never lose my temper and be a sore loser…or an annoying winner.”

“Or complain about the sun in your eyes?” Minji asked.

“Or grumble about being tired when you’re losing?” Carlos added.

Kevin promised.

Carlos and Minji accepted his apology and they all were friends once again.

Page 11*

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At lunch, Lily was sitting by herself. Kevin looked over at Minji and Carlos. They were talking and laughing and ignoring him.

So Kevin sat next to Lily.

“Hello,” Lily said.

“Hello,” Kevin answered.

They chewed in silence.

*From my next book, Kevin the Complainer

Page 8* (tentatively)

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“Well, then I QUIT!” Kevin stormed off.

 

It was awkward at lunch. The three always ate lunch together.

Minji and Carlos were eating their lunch and Kevin had to sit by himself.

He was sorry, but couldn’t bring himself to go and apologize.

So he ate his cricket sandwich with jackfruit jelly and felt sorry for himself.

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*From my next book, Kevin the Complainer