What Complaining is

Photo from Aaron Burden

“See if you can catch yourself complaining, in either speech or thought, about a situation you find yourself in, what other people do or say, your surroundings, your life situation, even the weather. To complain is always non-acceptance of what is. It invariably carries an unconscious negative charge.”

Eckhart Tolle

Page Seven (maybe)*


At last!  Recess.

Minji kicked the ball and ran for cover. Carlos got the ball and kicked it toward Kevin. But Kevin couldn’t catch the ball, which meant he was “out.”

“Let’s start over! That was unfair!” Kevin cried out.

Minji and Carlos shot each other a look.

“You know very well everything was fair, Kevin.” Minji took the ball to continue the game.

“Yeah, you’re out,” Carlos added.

“Oh yeah?” Kevin asked.

“Yes,” The other two replied.


*My book-in-progress (Kevin the Complainer)


When I asked the 16-year-old daughter what she thought of this illustration, she said:

“It looks like the two cats are going to eat the chameleon.”




“If you had everything in the material world (ambition, power, money), would that bring you happiness? 

Go back in time when you got something you really wanted. Were you happy? How long did it last?

You can be happy without anything achieved through ambition. So why not skip that step and just be joyous?”

-Byron Katie