You Can’t Make Me

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From Kate Rawlings

You can’t make me wake up and prepare for the day,

through threats or rewards or anything you say.

You can’t make me study for the quiz or the test,

you can’t make me pay attention and do my best.

 

 

But you can nicely inquire about the songs I like,

or invite me out to to shop, see a movie or a hike.

Because building a union based on sincerity

will lead to a life full of jocularity

 

for you as well as for me.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

To Suck or not to Suck – It Doesn’t Matter

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Photo by BaherKhairy

I volunteered tonight at my daughter’s symphony chair auditions. My task was to walk the children of the cello section from rehearsal to a small private room with a judge and back to rehearsal, one at a time. These kids’ ages ranged from 12 to 14 and there were eight of them.

They were nervous.

Six of them told me they didn’t practice enough. One of them told me he would fail.

I urged them to breathe deeply and think positively. But they weren’t having it!

Their pessimism surprised me. These kids attend rehearsal once a week, most coming from other cities 30 minutes away or more. They take private lessons.

It goes to show that two important factors necessary for confidence in performance: preparation and positivity.

Still, watching young kids work so hard to make beautiful music together warms the heart!

I love my friend’s reaction to her son when his audition was over.

He walked out of his audition, stretched his arms out and shouted, “I sucked!”

She said, “Well, let’s go out for ice cream then.”

And they did.

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Photo by Jared Sluyter

Consider Other Options

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Photo by Amy

This week, instead of clicking in on the news or net surfing (which always leaves me feeling rather deflated),  I have done the following:

  • given myself a pedicure;
  • jogged with my daughter (twice);
  • worked on my blog;
  • taken a bubble bath;
  • meditated;
  • had brunch with a friend;
  • updated my “goals” list; and
  • started a draft of my mind map

This change made me feel energized and productive, not anxious and deflated.

I wonder…what would happen if I quit the “news/Internet surfing habit” permanently?

 

 

 

A Shot in the Arm

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Photo by Katie Remmer

Y is for Yet*

 

I love the word “yet”                                                                  It’s full of promise and optimism

I haven’t learned Python …

I haven’t published my second book…

I haven’t been to England…

I’m not very good at illustrating…

I haven’t produced a short film…

I haven’t been to Korea with my kids…

yet! And until I do, I will enjoy every delicious moment of this great journey.

 

*Part of my alphabiography series

Want to be a Millionaire?

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W is for Wealth and Wisdom*

What I know through years of experience:

 

 

*Part of my alphabiography project

 

 

Ahhh! Bliss…

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Photo by Andre Mouton

V is for Veracity*

Truth —-> Self-Awareness —> Integrity —> Self-Contentment —> Peace

Which would you prefer: to be happy or to reach xyz goal?

When I find myself starting to worry or getting wrapped up in achieving xyz…The question, Isn’t it important to be happy?  realigns my focus.  The truth is, it’s not what I do that’s important, it’s HOW I do what I do.

 

*Part of my alphabiography project

You Can Feel This Way All the Time

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Photo by Lawrence Walters

S is for the Sun

When I was four, I stood in the backyard

dotted with dandelions and a baby pool

I looked up – the sun radiated my face

I felt melded with everything and life was so good

 

We were “poor”, but I did not know that

Dad was already worrying about college for his three kids

Mom cried and missed her family back in Korea

But the sun was out and I felt like a flower, blossoming