Producing

Maya says, “Don’t get discouraged!”

You gain a follower. You are so happy! And then you lose one. Or two.

You play in a tennis tournament and make several unforced errors that cost you the match. 

You stutter and stammer during the most important business meeting of the year. You’re sure you didn’t clinch this deal. 

The feeling of disappointment is hard for you to shake. 

Recently, a couple was found guilty of stealing from Amazon.com: $1.2 million! Was Jeff Bezos was up late at night, worrying about it? Was he fixated on this one event, wondering why? No. He’s got the holiday shopping season, Whole Foods and new centers to build and maintain. He’s got “people” (lawyers) to handle the problems. He stays on-task. 

This pertains to work and relationships: focus on progress (which leads to the ultimate goal). The subscriber count, the meeting and the competition are just one metric in each sphere of work. 

Keep on keeping on!

 

To Suck or not to Suck – It Doesn’t Matter

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Photo by BaherKhairy

I volunteered tonight at my daughter’s symphony chair auditions. My task was to walk the children of the cello section from rehearsal to a small private room with a judge and back to rehearsal, one at a time. These kids’ ages ranged from 12 to 14 and there were eight of them.

They were nervous.

Six of them told me they didn’t practice enough. One of them told me he would fail.

I urged them to breathe deeply and think positively. But they weren’t having it!

Their pessimism surprised me. These kids attend rehearsal once a week, most coming from other cities 30 minutes away or more. They take private lessons.

It goes to show that two important factors necessary for confidence in performance: preparation and positivity.

Still, watching young kids work so hard to make beautiful music together warms the heart!

I love my friend’s reaction to her son when his audition was over.

He walked out of his audition, stretched his arms out and shouted, “I sucked!”

She said, “Well, let’s go out for ice cream then.”

And they did.

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Photo by Jared Sluyter

Consider Other Options

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Photo by Amy

This week, instead of clicking in on the news or net surfing (which always leaves me feeling rather deflated),  I have done the following:

  • given myself a pedicure;
  • jogged with my daughter (twice);
  • worked on my blog;
  • taken a bubble bath;
  • meditated;
  • had brunch with a friend;
  • updated my “goals” list; and
  • started a draft of my mind map

This change made me feel energized and productive, not anxious and deflated.

I wonder…what would happen if I quit the “news/Internet surfing habit” permanently?

 

 

 

Need for Speed

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Photo by Camilla Coffey

Z is for Zippy*

 

We Americans like things fast

Speed of light, full throttle, move like lightning, fast food

I move quickly by default

preferring to zip about, and get things done

but it’s in the moments when I consciously s-l-o-w d-o-w-n

that I feel the most grounded, relaxed and content

 

 

*part of my alphabiography project

A Shot in the Arm

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Photo by Katie Remmer

Y is for Yet*

 

I love the word “yet”                                                                  It’s full of promise and optimism

I haven’t learned Python …

I haven’t published my second book…

I haven’t been to England…

I’m not very good at illustrating…

I haven’t produced a short film…

I haven’t been to Korea with my kids…

yet! And until I do, I will enjoy every delicious moment of this great journey.

 

*Part of my alphabiography series

Ahhh! Bliss…

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Photo by Andre Mouton

V is for Veracity*

Truth —-> Self-Awareness —> Integrity —> Self-Contentment —> Peace

Which would you prefer: to be happy or to reach xyz goal?

When I find myself starting to worry or getting wrapped up in achieving xyz…The question, Isn’t it important to be happy?  realigns my focus.  The truth is, it’s not what I do that’s important, it’s HOW I do what I do.

 

*Part of my alphabiography project

You Can Feel This Way All the Time

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Photo by Lawrence Walters

S is for the Sun

When I was four, I stood in the backyard

dotted with dandelions and a baby pool

I looked up – the sun radiated my face

I felt melded with everything and life was so good

 

We were “poor”, but I did not know that

Dad was already worrying about college for his three kids

Mom cried and missed her family back in Korea

But the sun was out and I felt like a flower, blossoming

 

 

 

Alphabiography

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Photo by Jaime Serrano

I recently assigned an alphabiography to my 6th grade students. For each letter of the alphabet, they had to write 4 sentences regarding a meaningful topic (could be a noun, adjective, verb) to that letter. After reading theirs, I was inspired to write my own.  My version is presenting itself in poem form:

A is for Acceptance

I am learning to accept what is

to see every “flaw, mistake, tragedy” as beautiful

I’m getting better at not asking “why?”

And replacing it with “why not?”

 

 

*My Alphabiography project

 

 

 

The Terrible Terrier

 

I love her quiet presence

–  wide-eyed and expectant –

she lives each day without self-judgment

 

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Photo by Jaclyn Clark

She is ready to play at any time,

faithful, affectionate and constant,

she delights in all life has to offer

 

people keep their distance from her breed

believing them to be vicious

when they merely mirror their human companions

 

they are mute and misunderstood

 

Once a mascot for 20th century America,

and even called “nanny dogs,”

Pits can sustain much pain without yelping

 

The language barrier rendered us speechless

but my Korean grandmother’s love for me was a quiet companion

playful, devoted and boundless