“Meditation…we see what comes up, acknowledge that with kindness, and let go.”
Pema Chodron, American Buddhist Nun
You gain a follower. You are so happy! And then you lose one. Or two.
You play in a tennis tournament and make several unforced errors that cost you the match.
You stutter and stammer during the most important business meeting of the year. You’re sure you didn’t clinch this deal.
The feeling of disappointment is hard for you to shake.
Recently, a couple was found guilty of stealing from Amazon.com: $1.2 million! Was Jeff Bezos was up late at night, worrying about it? Was he fixated on this one event, wondering why? No. He’s got the holiday shopping season, Whole Foods and new centers to build and maintain. He’s got “people” (lawyers) to handle the problems. He stays on-task.
This pertains to work and relationships: focus on progress (which leads to the ultimate goal). The subscriber count, the meeting and the competition are just one metric in each sphere of work.
Keep on keeping on!
A simple tool I learned from Tim Ferriss which has kept my day in alignment to my (true) goals:
Write the 5 most important tasks on an index card each morning. At the end of the day, discard the card and the next morning, begin again.
In this day and age of highly distractible events, it helps me stay focused on the most important tasks I want to accomplish.
“Mind your own business.”
This seems like a mean thing to say, but it’s actually one of the wisest and kindest pieces of advice one could give.
It was a pitted day
where little was fit or fulfilled,
peace and calm rose as sunset
but not too rightly willed
a desire to escape (!)
from noise, doubt and sorrow
I began the screen event
with little thought to morrow
but conscience tugged at my brain
here sat the binder full of work
you promised me – the voice said –
this endeavor you would not shirk
We have the capacity to feel energetic all the time. You don’t need chemicals or a special diet. We are naturally full of energy. The reason we lack energy is because we create blocks which stem from our ego.*
For example, let’s say you wake up in a great mood. You go to work, full of energy. You want to make this an outstanding day! You plan on getting a lot done. A client calls you, berates you and demands some of his money back. Now you feel indignant against this person. You take what he says personally and call him names (after you hang up the phone). How dare he demand things outside of the contract? How dare he accuse you of trying to pull a fast one?
You run your fingers through your hair. You don’t feel like moving forward because you’ve lost the energy to get a lot done today. You just want to fume and you walk to your boss’ office to complain and have someone agree with you.
There goes a day of productivity.
If you want to maintain your energy, you need to clear the blockages. Don’t take things personally, don’t feed your ego’s desire to vent and draw attention to itself. Let the drama go. You can choose to go with the problems, ego and power drain, or choose to remain energetic.